"Sex is easy. Friendship is hard."

First name

VeryBadDad

I Would Describe Myself As

What am I looking for on this site?

I love sex. But sex alone is not that difficult to come by. (Puns intended.)
Sex is easy. Friendship is hard. Friendship with caring and trust and with physical and emotional intimacy and vulnerability is very hard.

Hooking-up, one-night stands, nsa sex – all can be hot . . . and satisfying. Multi-year, repeated hook-ups with regular fuck-buddies fill a void. (Yes, another pun.)

I’ve had my good share of sex. However, at this time in my life – with the experience, wisdom, and challenges that come with getting older - I’d say I’m not looking for just a hook-up (which is problematic in these times anyway), but I’m primarily looking for a connection –a relating to another man that is more than casual.

So, I’d say I’m looking for friendship – friendship with benefits. And what I’d ultimately like is a loving relationship with all that it entails. But I hope I’ve made it clear that what I’m looking for on this site is not “all or nothing at all” – an LTR or no one.

Some of My Traits:

I’m kind. (But I can be mean if you want!)
I’m assertive, verbal, sensual . . .
Affectionate and demonstrative . . .
Spontaneous and playful . . .
Sensitive, compassionate, nurturing . . .
Patient, compromising . . . and tolerant (to a point) . . .
Forgiving . . .
Reliable and responsible . . .
Self-aware . . .
Cautious . . . but emotionally available . . .
Vulnerable and fallible . . .
Humorous . . .
Curious . . .
Logical . . .
Intuitive and creative . . .
Intellectual . . . yet physical . . .
Nonconformist.
Naughty, flirtatious, and mischievous also come to mind.
(Other extraordinary traits may yet be uncovered.)
I have a strong personality . . . and a long memory.
Scorpio.
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What Traits I’m Looking for in Another Man?

I don’t expect every man I might be interested in to have all these qualities - but certainly kindness, demonstrativeness, & integrity remain at the top of the list.

Kindness
Demonstrativeness (of affection)
Integrity (honesty, straightforwardness, & reliability)
Sensitivity
Sense of humor
Playfulness
Intelligence
Introspection
Verbal expressiveness (communicativeness)
Maturity (wisdom: usually the result of experience, but not necessarily a
function of age)
Realism
Flexibility (in every sense)
Buoyancy (optimism & resilience that inform an “up” type of person)
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I like men with naughty smiles & twinkling eyes,
men who are playful & affectionate,
. . . sometimes rough
. . . sometimes obedient
men.

I like men with fantasies.

I like men responsible, intelligent, kind,
men who are men
who smell like
men,
men
usually younger than I –
(I like men with good grammar, but
men
who know when
to break the rules.) -
younger men
who like
men
like me.

I like men with nice abs, & pecs, & arms, & feet
. . . strong thighs & calves
. . . and . . . oh! . . . that ass!
(Who doesn’t like men like them?)

I like men who are “there”
. . . in the moment
. . . with me.

I like men who don’t see the world as only “top” or “bottom,”
but see it sideways, too.

I like men who
with this man
would dare the fates and
rush the horizon to
rage
against the dying of the light.

I like men who’d
dare sail this ship and
voyage home
. . . to Ithaca
. . . with me.

© 2014 by Bad-Dad ;)

Sign

Scorpio

My Body Type Is

A Few Extra Pounds

My Height Is

5' 6 (1.68 m)

My Ethnicity Is

Other